Look into people's eyes when conversing with them

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Look into the other person’s eyes as much as is appropriate. Notice any discomfort you may feel with eye contact. Don’t be invasive, but also be willing to extend the contact for a second or a breath longer than you normally would. It’s a profound way to receive another person.

Research by Paul Ekman and others has shown that underlying emotions and attitudes are often revealed by fleeting facial expressions, especially around the eyes and mouth. Observe these, and also be aware of the other person’s posture, as well as speed and intensity of movement. Imagine what you would be feeling and wanting if you had those facial expressions and that body language yourself. This will tend to engage the mirror-like networks in your brain that tune into the actions of others.