Resilient - How to grow an unshakable core of calm, strength and happiness - Rick Hanson
Summary
- Positive psychology book for developing resilience in life
Reflections
Details
- For your mind to learn qualities like calm and compassion is just like learning anything else
- Treat yourself as you would treat a good friend
- You are shaped by your experiences, and your experiences are shaped by what you pay attention to
- Find pockets of time during your day to slow down
- Your mind is like a garden. You must watch it, feed it and weed it.
- 3 layers of how the brain works
- We are wired to think negatively
- Work to focus on and remember positive experiences
- Work to enrich our memories and experiences
- Happiness does not come if pursued, but if you create the conditions it will come by itself
- Love is like a multivitamin
- Dont confuse a condition with the underlying need that we are trying to meet
- We acquire mental resources by activation and installation
- A sense of agency leads to more happiness
- We have the power to shift our attention from something painful to something positive
- Thousands of causes upstream of this moment bring it into being, and we cannot control most of them, so we need to accept this mentally
- Consistency like pushing something gradually rather than running and smashing into it
- Appreciate your body
- Piglet noticed that even though he had a Very Small Heart, it could hold a rather large amount of Gratitude - A. A. Milne
- Being thankful is not about minimizing bad things but appreciating the good things that happen to us
- Most good things in life are win-win - we can be happy for others without diminishing our own happiness
- Exploring visual imagery inhibits the verbal side of our brain that causes worry and anxiety
- Anger is set off by a trigger, but there is a path of priming that prepares our mind for it
- I make myself rich by making my wants few - Henry David Thoreau
- How to increase your enjoyment of an activity
- Cultivate liking instead of wanting
- Become culturally competent by learning about other people
- Look into people's eyes when conversing with them
- People dont communicate well but try your best to find the underlying message
- Reshape relationships to be the correct size and shape for you
- Consider the foundation elements of your dream