Shift from being angry to planning
Summary
- instead of stewing in anger, plan instead
Details
- plan how to mitigate damage
- plan how to prevent the situation again
- having some control over the situation can make us feel better
References
Quotes
Martin recommended anger-relieving techniques like switching from stewing to planning, which can make you feel like you have some control over the situation. (Okay, traffic is bad so I’m going to be late to the dinner party. How can I make it up to my friends later?) If you regularly enter situations that make you angry, you can practice in advance—when you’re not angry—how you’ll maneuver your way through them.
Related
- We must, then, hold back our anger, whether the one who needs to be taken on is our equal, our better, or our inferior. To fight with an equal is a chancy affair; with a better, insane; with an inferior, tawdry - Seneca
- It is best to repel instantly the first prickings of anger, to stamp out its very seedlings, to take pains not to be drawn in - Seneca
- We cannot control what others say or do, but we can control our response
- A sense of agency leads to more happiness